WHO SHOULD PAY ON A DATE & HOW MUCH SHOULD YOU SPEND?

In my usual stroll on twitter streets yesterday I came across a post where this oboe oyibo bros was complaining that he took this chic out on a date and then when it came to the time to order, he asked and she said she would order after him. He went ahead and ordered a lobster (big boy tinz) and then was flabbergasted when she ordered a lobster too. He was very very very upset. LOL. 

Shweps!

I’ve not been on a lot of dates but there was this one time after I finished secondary school and I used to stay at my mom’s shop, I had a toaster. The guy came to buy something in our shop oh and then proceeded to invite me on a date. I said ok. The fast food we were to meet at was just a strolling distance, so that day I carried myself there…the young guy asked, "what will you like"…

One chance!

I quickly scanned the showglass and believe you me, I ordered for 4 packs of jollof rice, each complete with chicken, and salad. Then I proceeded to order for some snacks and drinks for 4. I did not end there, I picked a tub of icecream too and told him that was all…he looked at me like O_o 



Bros nor vex, I told him that I can’t sit with him and eat hence I’m getting a takeaway, and then I can’t go back to the store with my singular take away without the other shop assistants asking for some of the goodies and reporting to momsy which is why I ordered for everybody. That makes sense doesn’t it? 



I have to commend him- he looked hurt but he PAID and told me he will see me the next day when he’s passing by. This was a young guy oh. I wonder where he got the money from sef. LOL. I wonder what he’s doing with his life right now and if he’s telling his wife stories of that fateful day. 



So who should pay on a date: Well, if YOU invite ME, and I have to take time off my busy schedule to go on a date with you, then YOU PAY. But it’s like these days independent women like to split the bill…I don’t do that. I’m old school like that. Unless I (the lady) invite you on a date, then I’d consider paying, but we know that will never happen. So bros, it's on you.



I remember the early stages of our relationship, Bobo and I (he never toasted me)…he would buy me food every time and that was at least once a day and we were both students oh. So what’s happening to the guys of nowadays that don’t want to pay? Why complaints? These are early signs of stingikokoness and I don’t play with stingy. Boy Bye. 



How much should He spend on a date: We’ve established the fact that he invited me on a date so he’s paying right? Good. As a considerate babe, that depends on where we have that date. I can’t give a specific price but I’ll order something from the menu that was somewhere in the middle. I’ll wait for him to order first and if he orders a lobster…I’ll order a lobster too :D

Correct me if I'm too old school but in my head, the idea of asking someone out on a date is this: you see a girl you're crazy about and you hope and pray she's going to say yes to your invitation. You're very excited when she shows up that even if she ordered for cow head you would not mind washing plates to pay. Isn't that the typical scenario? Abi people just go on dates nowadays to get busy and "see how it goes" "see if there's a connection"?



28 comments

  1. lol...Sisi, I too like you joor.

    These days, guyz be like "babe take me out na" and Im like "take you out as wetin? mind you, you aint even dating this guy.

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    1. Yes now. You should be able to take a brother out now. wetin bad there??

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    2. Only if you invited the guy out yourself and not the guy asking to be taken out. He no get shame ni?

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  2. Hmmm for me, you have to pay if it's the first date. After all, na you find me come nor be me invite myself.

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    1. lolz



      Yep, I thought if I told the truth, my friend would look at me like I was the last banana left on the shelf. The one that no one wants to buy because everyone else has avoided it so you assume there’s something wrong with it.
      I wanted him to think that someone, somewhere thought I was pretty darn special – as though I couldn’t be pretty darn special flying solo! How wrong is that? Wronger than Miley Cyrus touching herself onstage that’s how wrong. And 99% of the time I know this, it’s just that 1% of the time irrational thoughts take over my brain and I go a bit crazy. CLICK I TOLD THE BENDED TRUTH to read more

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  3. Well, the men should pay on the first date and subsequent dates. It is only when the relationship is well advanced that a lady can pay i.e when you are actually in a relationship. I know a lot of ladies here will agree with me that they will happily pay when they go on a date with their boyfriend or fiance but not with a toaster......

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  4. Sisi Yemi you be bad girl. Chai

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    1. I wonder the kind of dumb guys who girls date that don't have the guts to speak. @wafijoe, just don't want to sign in, I am not hiding my identity.

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  5. Hello Sisi Yemmie

    I agree with you. If a guy asked me out on a date. I expect him to pay and I will order something reasonable.
    Also, my idea of a date is an opportunity for us to get to know each other.

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  6. loool... abi, dnt mind dem but gals sef shdnt order like dey vent eaten out in 2 yrs... order, as u wld do order if u took urslf on d date

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  7. Hahahaha,never been on a date b4 sha.

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  8. Hehehe! That's hilarious! Four packs! Yemi you no pity the guy o. You for buy them meat pie nah!

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  9. lol. I think guys should take dates to a place you can afford.

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  10. A girl should determine what to order by how comfortable she and the guy are. If its a first time and she doesnt know him well, she should be conservative. Thats why, growing up, our parents always told us to eat at him before you go out to a party!" Going out on a date is not a chance to go and eat! Going out is a chance to go for a conversation and get to know each other. If you are hungry, eat at home! It shows proper upbringing. FInally, after you have known the guy for a while, and you know how comfortable he is with money, then you will know how to order! On the flip side, if you are so hungry or you want to try that lobster that you have never had before, then offer to pay for your own meal. Give him the chance to say "oh! I cant afford that, or nah! I will pay for that." Sometimes, a guy frowning at your order has nothing to do with stinginess. He could just be broke.

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  11. thank you o sisi.the whole idea is what he orders will say how much he's willing to spend and if he gets a lobster why can't the woman?Some men will order coke or fanta-that is when you can pity them and their pockets even though some ladies don't.lol! but ure not old school,just traditional.

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    1. Exactly Cheechee. My rule is not to order a more expensive meal than the guy who's paying. The lobster boy is very silly. He can eat lobster but she can't? Abeg he should go and sit his self centred bumbum down jare.

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  12. Aww Bobo "never toasted you" Sisi, tell us about your love story some day :-)

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  13. I agree with you Sisi Yemmie. There was this guy I dated who was very stingy. He would not want to pay for anything, he would expect me to pay . Thank God, he is no more in my life. Besides there is nothing wrong with being old school.

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  14. Lol...sisi, I like your style. I agree with Ife, tell us your love story

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  15. Nice one Sisi, but I'd suggest that babes always carries "vex money" (just to be on a safe side) when going on a date cos you barely know the guy and what he's capable of... Bella N.

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  16. Boys dont even want to take you on proper dates these days. They dont wanna spend. And some see a girl that orders what she really wants as hungry.....very hungry. But you dey vex sha. You ordered for 4 people. That's gold o.

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  17. All you ladies should shut up. Why won't you pay for the guy? That's what normally annoys me. How can you order for what you too No you can't pay for? That's why most ladies diz days are still single at old age. I see that as greed.

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  19. your story Ibust laugh. Nowdays I think people especillymen just g on a date to see how it will go on. Men/boysare tooooostingy nowdays shaiii lol

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  20. Lol your story made me laugh my head off, and at the same time got me a tinsy bit irritated!!. Girl how could you pack all the food in the restaurant like that??? If you wanted to feed the whole shop, then you should have bought them the food with your own money!. The nice guy invited you on a date, and not you, your friends, and shop workers Lool. But I completely agree with your take, I believe the person who should pay for the date is the person that initiated the date. So if a man asks me out of my busy schedule to have dinner with him, he sure as heck better be ready to pay. And if I ever ask a man out ( WHICH WILL NEVER EVER HAPPEN BY THE WAY), I will be prepared to pay, but I will still expect him to, because that's what gentle men do. So at the end of the day, the man always pays Loool. Twisted double standard we have.

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