"Dear Sisi Yemmie.
Congrats on your wedding to your love Bobo. Your pictures were so lovely.
I'm not sure if you do this whole advice thing but here it is I have been dating my boyfriend officially for 4 months now, although we have been friends since November last year. We both planned on being just friends , the reason being that he is to leave to the US for his masters this month and we didn't want to start something we couldn't finish. Some how we grew really fond of each other and he asked me to be his girlfriend in April. Now he is about to leave for school in a few days time and I want to know where we stand once he goes because he could be away for at least a year and a half or more depending on how things go.
He's personality isn't the emotional mushy mushy type, he doesn't say his "I love you and I miss you "s a lot. He is more of the "fix it, let me do something macho to let you know I care about you" kinda guy. He is quite the workaholic and we already live in different towns,we only get to spend time together once or twice a month Because of both our work schedules but I know being in different countries and different time zones will be tougher because we can't afford to visit each other. At least not more than once a year.
1. How do I bring up the topic of our expectations / goals for this relationship without seeming like I'm putting him on the hot seat, or even seeming insecure. How did you and Bobo handle / overcome this?
2. What can we do to bond and grow our relationship over this period?
3. Am I expecting too much inform of commitment since we have only been dating a few months?
I really like him a lot and I believe he feels the same, I'm not in a hurry to get married. But I don't want to be strung along with something I'm not sure about and get hurt in the process.
Please Help me Sisi Yemmie.
P.s u can advice me straight by mail or post on your blog.Thanks dear. He is leaving on Sunday. I believe we need yo have the talk soon
I'm 28 and he is 31 this year."