Everything that you want to last requires maintenance and constant "servicing"...that includes relationships. It is very easy to fall into the rot of forgetting to care. If couples spent as much time and effort into maintaining their relationships as much as they did during the "toasting" stages, most relationships would be blissful! Don't allow negligence destroy the beauty of your relationship. Service it. Here are some pointers on how to "service" your relationship.

1. Be Yourself: Don't fall into the habit of letting go, so much so that you don't know who you are anymore. Set some time to rejuvenate, you can still do somethings on your own. Press refresh on yourself often: this can rejuvenate your relationship. Don't suddenly stop making your hair, appearances matter. Yes, beauty is skin deep but "Ain't nobody got time for that"! 

2. Take Responsibility: Each person brings baggage into a relationship: no one is perfect. Some people spend the first few years trying to change the other person, this can be very frustrating. Accept them for who they are and take responsibility for the baggage you bring into the relationship. Work on your shortcomings and over time they would see the need to work on theirs. Take responsibility for your own happiness and self-worth. 

3. Meet Each Others Needs: This is extremely important. No one enjoys being in a relationship just “because”… this is why it is important to discuss expectations, if there is no communication you would not be able to know what the other needs [...needs change over time] Random acts of kindness go a long way, help each other out.

4. Enjoy One Another : Spend more time together than apart and spend it having fun! Be friends with one another and do things that keep the bond going strong. Go on dates, try new things, take road trips together, embark on a fun project together, just make sure whatever you do brings you together and you enjoy each other. When you stop enjoying each other the relationship becomes boring and mechanical. 

5. Forgive: There is a lot of forgiving that has to be done for a relationship to keep running smoothly. You will offend each other, and you need to learn how to accept apologies and move on.

Do no not keep revisiting past offences. Learn to apologise [I promise it won't kill you] and learn to accept apologies. Keep forgiving each other. "The things two people do to each other they remember. If they stay together, it's not because they forget; it's because they forgive."- Demi Moore

I definitely did not cover everything and I am hoping you will have tips to share with me too, how have you been maintaining your relationship?

Ps. Congrats to Kola of BetaMotivation on her wedding and for letting me use her photo! Too cute! Be sure to visit her blog.


  1. I love the tips you've given, Sisi, and I love that you used that beautiful pic of Kola and her hubz:)

    I've been visiting her blog and Youtube channel for a while now and I love her message!

  2. "The things two people do to each other they remember. If they stay together, it's not because they forget; it's because they forgive."- Demi Moore....Forgiveness is very key. Also, I will like to add- Giving compliments and correcting with love. I think these two tips help in maintaining a relationship.

    1. Yup! I totally agree with the tip about giving compliments. It's hard to fight when your head is swelling Looll

  3. Hey Sisi Yemmie...LOL @ "Ain't nobody got time for that"!

    Thanks for this post, I apply the tips you stated below.
    One tip I use in my own relationship is SELFLESSNESS...its working for us because we made the decision to be selfless to each other, we always look out for the good of each other.

    Another tip I use is letting my partner know my expectations, and I mean what I expect from him as my fiance and what I expect from the relationship.

    1. Amen, Amen to your tip: SELFLESSNESS! Not easy but it's definitely worth it for every relationship to grow.

  4. Thanks for the tips Sisi. Relationships usually scare me. It can be overwhelming sometimes. Would try these tips out in my next one

  5. One tip I know that keeps me going in my relationship is COMMUNICATION. Being able to say it as it is and understanding I mean well or he means well and never forgetting your spouse is your friend. Gone are the days when wife will be calling her husband 'daddy wa' or 'daddy'. Never forget to have fun as friends and not lovers. That's wassup
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  6. As usual, these are great tips. Thanks for posting Sisi! One tip I'd like to add is understanding that your spouse comes first. For most couples, their attention is mostly focused on the children once they start having kids.

    While that is important, it is equally important to know that you the spouse came first before the kids - Na only him/her waka come before the

    Sisi Yemmie, waa gbayi! I dey wait for wedding invite o!

  7. Your tips are on point! The bedrock of a healthy relationship/marriage is Trust, understanding and tolerance. It baffles me when people say they are in love yet their relationship/marriage lack these three key things.Lets try as much as possible to take note of these three key points; trust your partner, try as much as posible to understand each other and tolerate each other. Lets always remeber that its two people from different background, different upbringing coming together to make it work.

  8. Awww i LOVE this post and I'm blushing that you used our picture haha

    These are awesome tips and #4 is definitely my favorite. I think it's soooo important to just chill and have fun together. Life is serious business so it's nice to have somebody to be goofy with on demand Lol


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