When I read this story, I was emotional; I had tears in my eyes. WOW. So many girls get pregnant and get rid of it not because they are wicked but because they are scared of the consequences, being stigmatized and how their parents would feel. This is why I want to share this with you...Excerpts from Stella's Blog
"He is the God who makes water to flow in the desert. He turns a fruitful field into a forest. He is the one who brings out water from rocks and for Him, impossible is nothing. Stella! Stella! I write this in tears!! I have been meaning to send this post to you for days now but the responsibility of catering for a newly born weighed me, and I only just got the chance. She was born on thursday last week, Jan 16th 2014. My pride. My joy. My princess. Chikaima Bella Elebe.
When I found out I was pregnant in mid-may 2013, I was broken into pieces. It wasn't planned. My then boyfriend was going through a rough patch, he had too many
responsibilities. I didn't think he would stay. We had only been together for four months.
Blissful four months. But I thought about all the financial constraints. I thought about my family. I said my parents would kill me. I thought about school. How would people react when they found out that the Vice President of Mass Communication Dept was pregnant, while still un-married?
It wasn't the life I planned for. And at 22, I wasn't ready for a child. But I knew that abortion wasn't an option; couldn't correct one mistake with another mistake. I had two options, either my boyfriend stick it out with me or I go and register for care with an orphanage. Giving birth in my parents house was also not an option.
So I went to visit my boyfriend and told him I was pregnant; three weeks gone. I broke down and wept and wailed. He said he would stay. That he wasn't going nowhere. He said whatever disgrace,shame or sorrow that would come, that we would go through it together.
We didn't know the first thing to do,but we knew that we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. So I went back to school and prayed and prayed, that God would turn my mistake into a miracle.
First trimester was horrible cause of all the physical and emotional changes. After my exams in july, I came back to lagos and he proposed to me. I told my parents I was three months pregnant. Dad was so disappointed. Mum was more than distraught.
How money started coming in, Stella! I don't know! His office just started sending him out on different trainings and the re-imbursements were huge. We did our introduction in August, traditional rites in September and wedding on October 18,2013
I had initially made a list of all the baby things I needed and shared out to my friends, each having one thing or the other to provide. I eventually didn't need any dime from anyone. I went baby shopping in september with my mom and bought the best baby things lagos had to offer. I needed to move out of the Catholic hostel I was staying at. Money rolled in and I was able to get a flat in town and even furnished it well!
Its amazing Stella! How God works! I am yet to get over His goodness. I really hope you post this mail because I know it would speak to someone out there. God is still God. He is faithful even in our unfaithfulness. He rights wrongs. Everything has worked out for my good. ASUU strike favoured me immensely, because I was home from the beginning of my second trimester till now that I have put to birth. And pregnancy practically glowed on me.
The best part? I asked God for a short and safe delivery; I gave birth after only four hours of labour. It's easy to say 'only four hours' now! In that room, those four hours felt like eternity. But when I realized that many women who were there before me were still there when I left,I knew that four hours was indeed 'only'. Kaima is such a beautiful baby Stel, even if I say so myself. When I got cleaned up and asked to see her, she was smiling!
How does a newly born know how to smile? She smiles a lot Stel! And everything I asked her to be, she is just that. I prayed she took her dad's nose, brows, lashes and height; she did! She then combined that perfectly with my lovely fingernails, my complexion, eyes, smile and shape of face.
Stella oh! Please post this! Every mistake can be turned into a blessing! I hope my fellow SDKers join me in thanking God for His goodness and I sincerely pray that those praying for the fruit of the womb would have their heart desires and that those who are pregnant at the moment would have short and safe delivery. We would hear the cry of the baby and the laughter of the mother.
Please find attached, a picture of me when I was 8months gone; glowing and all! Pictures of the baby and of my hubby and I as well. My name is Ifeoma.