Men of nowadays...!!!

Na so oh, last week I was gisting with one guy like that, he now said that he asked his girlfriend "what are you bringing to the table"? hin say e no fit marry girl wey no dey work, say he dey find partner not house wife. Marriage is 50/50.  Ok. We haff heard! This is sha not the first or only guy saying this...if you have been discussing wife matter with boys of nowadays you will discover kpe their head don fokasibe! I gree kpe its not good for women ambition to be marrying rich man and become housewife - gone are those days! Yet sometimes i sit and sigh and say "oh! how lucky those women of my granmama generation were".... Anyways that is not my portion!

Back to the story, I sha noticed that the boys of this awa generation ti baje! I dont now who to blame for what some of them have turned out to be! They are toooo lazy! And they want to drink their beer and have it, but na lie! e no fit happen! "How"? you ask....Lets go back to the days of our granpapa and granmama...who was in charge of the family? who was the SOLE PROVIDER? hold on.Going back to that generation sef is too far, look at our own papa and mama; for most of us the papa is the provider. Who pay school fees? daddy! Who buy you christmas cloth? daddy!! Who drop the popular "garri money"?daddy!!! There you go! Daddy was everything (although that has its disadvantages but that is not todays topic!). We all felt that the sun shone out of daddy's yansh, didnt we?! After God, na who? Na daddy!


These days what do you notice? Our boys2men will split school fees, wife go pay half, him go pay half, wife go provide garri money (afterall what is she using all the bank money for abi?), wife go buy all the shidren christmas cloth. These days wife go even build house! Proverbs 31 women don full everywhere like pure water  but what is lacking? their husbands! All men can quote Proverbs 31 by heart but dem go jump one verse which is verse (23)" Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land"...the bible did not say her husband is known in the beer parlour oh, they said he is an important figure, a man handlin bizness if u know what i mean (wink!). He's da BOSSMAN!

Of course the consequences of sharing 'manly responsiblities' with your 'partner' will be felt sooner or later. Una don notice kpe these days women no dey too respect their husbands? the rate of divorce don high and the amount of women wey suppose marry wey no gree marry don brokoto? ask me why and i will tell you! Thank you! E go hard to 'cut' (respect) for man wey no dey move things. If daddy pay shidren school fees, if he say 'jump', the woman go say 'how high sir'?the shidren sef go believe! But if the wife pay half, oga husband pay half too, if he says jump, the woman go hala  FOR WHERE?! Ni Bo??! Lets face the truth, money is not everything but it is something and that something can add jara to the normal respect wife bin get for husband. 
Divorce rate is high  because, men dont mind their bizness no more, they are busy poke nosing everywhere, and if as a woman you feel you can provide for yourself, why will you tolerate arrrrrrant nonsense???? na winch? Girls wey never marry nko? na the same rope tie all these mata.

Yes I gree! Some of our mothers stayed with our fathers even though the men were carrying kobo-leg girls pio pio pio. Why do you think they stayed? Is it not because Daddy is King? and Daddy sabi make things happen? make una talk true. Its easier to be patient with a whoring man who is taking care of his family. Infact, for some women, as far as the husband is providing for his home/kids and all, he can keep whoring till he cassssshhhh Gonorrhea! If pepper rest for a woman and she and her husband share the responsibility 50/50, the man should prepare to share other things too 50/50...e.g 100% respect. Or how can we share everything 50/50 and then  oga wakes up one day and screams SUBMIT!   E. Go. Hard.! Women go work, women go carry belle(... and na we two do am oh), woman go take care of children, woman go wash cook and clean, woman go still bring money and to bring the money in submission too ke? Bros! E. Go. Hard. Die! And ontop of everything some men will still beat their wives...this is slavery na. God abeg oh! Anyone who thinks marriage is a 50/50 partnership knows nothing about men, women, or fractions!


I have come today to tell our boys2men,"stop screaming at your wife to submit, take care of your responsibilty and women go mellow"! The reason your madam is not saying yessir is cos you are not acting like the BOSSMAN! You do not want to not be needed, do you? Reason am, if we (women) can do it all, we do not need you except to procreate, and we all know sperm banks are becoming popular these days...so be kiaful my fren! Make una take time oh!lol


#DearFutureHusband....jor oh!

WOK'CHOP: ILA ASEPO

INGREDIENTS
-pieces goat meat/or beef
- chicken ( aka old layer).lol but if u cant find the old layer type use any other kind
-tripe/shaki
-cow skin (ponmo aka showboy) or cowleg
-shawa/dried fish
-stockfish (dried cod fish aka okporoko)
-dried catfish
-fresh king prawns
-dried prawns
-chopped spinach
-palm oil
-red onion
-knorr/ maggi cubes
-1 bay leaf
-garlic clove (chopped)
-dried thyme
-salt
-blended crayfish
- iru (locust beans)

HOW TO COOK

• Cut up okro with a knife...I prefer this to blending because the okro will be nice and crunchy instead  of a smooth paste. 

• Boil Shaki and Ponmo separately till tender with water, salt and maggi (45mins)

• Boil stockfish also separately till tender

• Debone the shawa/dried fish and soak in warm water, also soak the dried prawns.

• Boil meat/beef and add seasoning...let the stock be rich. Ensure that the stock is rich. My stock always plays a major role in whatever i am cooking. I add thyme,curry, knorr,red onion, garlic, ginger,salt, coriander, blended pepper and green pepper.

• when chicken/beef is cooked, Preheat oven to 400 degrees. Line a baking dish with foil, Remove meats /chicken from stock and arrange on foil.Let bake/brown for 10 minutes. Reduce oven temp. to 325 degrees. Drizzle one serving spoon of stock over meats and re-arrange. Let it bake/brown another 5 minutes, this will make it hard thus preventing it from scattering in the pot of soup later on.

• Add palm oil, Iru, blended crayfish, prawn, dried prawns, catfish (deboned)  to chicken/beef stock and allow to boil for 20 minutes (till the palm oil is cooked)

• Add chopped Okro to the boiling pot of orisirisi (the pot sha) an then mix till well blended.  Allow it to boil and do not cover or your okro will not 'draw'

•  Add chopped and washed spinach to the mixture and mix properly. Taste for salt. Usually the salt/maggi in my stock is always enough for my soup so I do not add any more (hence the stock has to be rich!)

• Reduce heat and allow to simmer for 5 minutes and voila! Food is served. You can serve with pounded yam, amala, eba, semo etc. Some folks eat it with rice (????).  

• Bon appetit, Ounjẹ ajẹye o ,Yoo gba ibi re ...

blended crayfish

whole okro

chopped okro

dried crayfish

dried catfish

cowleg, shaki

cowleg

shaki

dried stockfish, okporoko

meatstock and chicken/beef

iru-locust beans

adding spinach to okro soup

All images are mine, so no copy copy oh! If i catch you....lol

BUS 80!

Im so sorry Ive not been blogging much! I gats apologise so here it is : I am sorry! Missed blosgville, and i hope i wont be away for long again. Oya on to todays gist! Well its not really my usual gist, this one is special from God.  Im here to tell u guys about BUS 80 with mixed feelings! I'm angry and happy at the same time at this BUS service, well more angry than happy to be honest.

 So I recently moved to this area, and the bus that takes me to my street gan gan is BUS 80. That bus service is soooooooooooo crap! National Express please take note! I feel the drivers are in their offices/bus stations/ wherever  drinking ogogoro while passengers are waiting angrily in the freezing cold, some missing appointments, getting late for work/meetings! Or  is it that there are not enough buses? There is nothing more annoying than a bus service that is never on time. If they are never going to be on time, why get a timetable in the first place? So the bus is supposed to arrive 3.15, 3.36,  3.50 within an hour but the 3.15 doesn't show till 4.36! Friggin frack! At this juncture I'm begging God, please give me money make i buy moto!

However my last encounter with BUS 80 was not the usual one. I got inspiration from above. I was almost at the bus stop when I sight the bus already leaving (a), so smart me remembered that if i go thru the train station i can block the bus at one sharp corner like that (b). Na so i pick race, running like someone that has to piss bad bad (c)! So I reach the corner and I no see the bus...i'm thinking , has the bus passed already? or is the bus still coming? I had the option of taking other buses however they will not get me as close to my street as BUS 80 will, BUS 89 pass, three BUS 87 pass, even BUS 82 and  BUS 81 pass, and i was feeling like a mumu standing alone at the bus stop (d). One mind say make i eneter all the other bus but another mind say make i wait...I waited 5 more minutes before BUS 80 came and I entered (e).

The moral of this story which I have decided to share with you guys out of the abundance of my kind generous heart is this:  Once God has given you a vision (a), when you sight your dream for front, make sure you make a plan (b) and chase it committedly!(c). On your journey there will definitely be other distractions and other routes you think you can take to get you to your destination quicker but remember they will never lead you exactly to your destination...how then can you be fulfilled? Be patient (d) and wait (e)! And your dream will come true! Always know when it is time to wait . . .

"Sometimes God does not come down and speak to us with a thunderous voice; sometime He uses situations to explain, teach and encourage us"

                                                                                                          Sisi Yemmie